What is Kinky Tapas?
Updated: Mar 22, 2022
Get little bites of a lot of kink!
MARLA AND LUNA ARE SO EXCITED TO BRING YOU A KINKY SKILLS RETREAT!
Are you new to kink and don’t have an idea of where to start?
Do you have some experience in BDSM and kink and want to increase your skill set?
Do you want to be in a space that’s BIPOC-centered that can fulfill your needs?
If you answered yes to at least one of these questions, then this kinky skills retreat is for you!
Join us at Kinky Tapas, Apr 28-May 1, 2022 - Oakland, CA
WHAT WILL YOU LEARN AT KINKY TAPAS?
In this practical 3 day workshop, you’ll learn all the tricks of the trade when it comes to BDSM and kink. Luna and Marla have combined their knowledge to bring you their best tactics to ensure a play scene that will maximize your pleasure and get your play partners to request you again and again.
Get little bites of a lot of kink!
At Kinky Tapas, we'll cover things like:
Confidence and erotic creativity
Scene Setting, Safety & Communication
Commanding a Room
Developing confidence and presence
Dominant Do’s and Don’ts
Submissive Communication Skills
Rope Bondage
Spanking & Other Impact Play
Choking & Breath Play
Sensation Play
Genital Worship & Torture
Strap-On Play
Butt Play
Fluid Fetishes
Skills for Subs
Common Fetishes
....and more depending on the interests of the group
You'll develop practical kinky skills through practice in two different dungeons. You'll get a feel for what it's like to practice in a supportive small group with hands-on guidance and demonstrations by Marla and Luna.
WANT TO MEET PARTICIPANTS BEFORE WE GET THERE?
You will be able to join our membership community so that you can introduce yourself and connect with other participants. We will also have a tapas meet and greet the day before the seminar begins and a celebratory brunch.
WHAT'S INCLUDED IN YOUR KINKY TAPAS TUITION?
Access to our membership community
Teaching from vetted kinksters, Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas
Breakfast and lunch catering with snacks during Kinky Tapas
Kinky Workbook - hardcopy and digital
Play time in 2 beautiful local dungeons
A Kinky Kit - sponsored swag from kink retailers
Kink photographer to capture moments for you
Personal vetting certificate signed by Luna & Marla
Join us in Oakland, California from April 28-May 1 2022 for the ultimate way to explore kink, please your kinky partner and find your own kinky style.
SCHEDULE (TENTATIVE)
Thursday April 28, 2022
Arrive in Oakland
7pm - Meet & Greet
Friday April 29, 2022
10am - 4pm
*Optional Dinner: Alamar Kitchen & Bar
*Optional Trip:
Saturday April 30, 2022
10am - 4pm
*Optional Dinner:
*Optional Trip: 9pm - The Power Exchange in SF
Sunday, May 1, 2022
Goodbyes!
YOUR KINKY TAPAS HOSTS
ABOUT MARLA
Marla Renee Stewart, MA (she/her) is a sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 20 years and has given over 500 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a variety of media outlets, including Netflix’s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love & HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, which debuted in April 2020.
ABOUT LUNA
Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 10 years of experience in sexual health and wellness internationally and locally. Her playful approach to sexuality draws on the creativity, confidence and communication skills we all need to fulfill our pleasure potentials.
FAQ
What does BIPOC-centered mean?
BIPOC is an acronym that usually refers to Black, Indigenous and People of Color. Our space centers the experience of BIPOC people and communities by recognizing the impact that race and racism has on our physical, emotional and erotic well-being. We will hold space for conversations that help all of us understand the impact that systemic and interpersonal racism has on our kinky experiences. If you’re committed to dismantling racism in kink spaces, you’ll have a chance to unpack your experiences as you build skill.
Can I bring my partner(s)?
Absolutely! Bringing a partner guarantees you someone to play with and practice on, so the more, the merrier! You don’t need a partner to participate in hands-on activities - we will make sure you get the experience you’re looking for.
Is this event only for women?
Nope! This event is for everyone regardless of your gender identity. We speak in gender neutral and technical terms, so that it’s accessible regardless of what you were assigned at birth.
How many people will be attending?
We have limited space in order to keep the group small.
Will there be nudity or live sex?
There will be nudity on occasion if the practice requires it for proper technical instruction. You will never be required to participate in a session if you are uncomfortable or uninterested in the technique. Participants and instructors will not be nude or engaging in live sex.
Is this a hands-on event? Will I get to practice techniques?
Absolutely! We will be practicing with and on each other. You will definitely get to practice! You are welcome to participate as an observer if hands-on doesn’t feel right for you.
I’m a complete newbie - is this an appropriate event for me?
It sure is! We welcome newbies and those with moderate kink skills who want to learn more. We will not be teaching advanced kink techniques such as needle play, piercing, or blood chokes.
Do I have to attend all the sessions? What if I’m not into certain topics?
Hell no! Do you boo! You can feel free to attend the things you want to do. If you are not into certain topics, you can definitely opt out of the teachings. We will have alternative assignments for you to develop your skills if you opt out of a session.
Will I get to meet the other participants before?
We will have a meet and greet the day before the workshops begin, so yes, you will be able to meet the other participants beforehand, if you choose.
Do we have to pay all at once?
No, you don’t! We have payment plans available! Just email marla@velvetlipsllc.com and she'll hook you up!
What happens if I have to cancel?
You will be able to get a full refund up to 3 weeks before the event. After that, you will get 50% up to one week before the event. The week of the event, you will not receive a refund.
How do we get to the venue?
You’ll be provided with details about where to get to the event venues closer to the date. Transportation to and from are your responsibility. Within the group there might be opportunities for ride-sharing or travel buddies.
Can you book my flights?
No, you must book your own flight.
What COVID precautions are you taking?
You will have to upload your vaccination card when purchasing your ticket.
What do I need to bring?
We will have kinky tools for you to experiment with and we’ll point you in the direction of our fav retailers. No pressure to bring any of these things, but if you’re feeling in the mood bring:
Kinky outfits (optional)
Comfortable clothing
Your kink toys, gear or pervertables
How is this different or better than just booking a trip to a dungeon on my own?
We are actually teaching you kink skills! Yes, you could probably go to a kink conference, but at conferences, you typically don’t get to practice. Not only will you be able to practice and hone your skills, you will also get focused instruction with a small group of like-minded individuals who are eager to learn just as much as you are. We are committed to building your kink confidence, creativity and technique.