Kinky Tapas: Couples Edition

HELLO KINKY COUPLES!

Kinky Tapas Couples Edition is designed for pairs of people who want to explore and build skills in BDSM together. Kink isn’t always sexual, we welcome pairs of participants who share erotic friendships or are committed to learing platonically together. Pairs of all ages, genders, relationship-styles, and sexual orientations are all welcome.

Your facilitators, Marla Renee Stewart and Luna Matatas are bringing you a 3-day, hands-on experience to build kinky skills in a supportive, playful and anti-racist space.

Kinky Tapas Couples is for partners who want to:

• Explore BDSM, kink and fetishes
• Get guided hands-on learning experience in skills like impact play, restraints and bondage, dominance and submission, creating scenes and sensation play.
• Discover and try new kinky things together
• Take kinky fantasies into real life
• Build confidence as a beginner kinky couple
• Explore power exchange in the bedroom
• Build sexual and erotica boundaries
• Navigate concerns like emotional and physical safety, ethics, body and sexual shame
• Improve erotic communication and erotic care
• Learn to nurture erotica connections and creativity in a relationship
• Build kinky skills in a supportive, anti-racist, creative space

If you’re new to kink and BDSM and not sure where to start or you’ve had a little experience but want to deepen your skills - Kinky Tapas Couples’ retreat could be for you!

Kinky Tapas Couples’ retreat is NOT for:

• Couples living in 24/7 power exchange dynamics
• Couples seeking on-premise sex or swinging experiences
• Couples seeking sex or relationship therapy

Join us at Kinky Tapas Couples, October 13-16, 2022, Portland, OR

WHAT WILL YOU LEARN AT KINKY TAPAS?

In this practical 3 day workshop, you’ll learn all the tricks of the trade when it comes to BDSM and kink.  Luna and Marla have combined their knowledge to bring you their best tactics to ensure a play scene that will maximise your pleasure and get your play partners to request you again and again.

Get little bites of a lot of kink!

At Kinky Tapas, we'll cover things like:

• Confidence and erotic creativity
• Scene Setting, Safety & Communication
• Commanding a Room
• Developing confidence and presence
• Dominant Do’s and Don’ts
• Submissive Communication Skills
• Rope Bondage
• Spanking & Other Impact Play
• Choking & Breath Play
• Sensation Play
• Genital Worship & Torture
• Strap-On Play
• Butt Play
• Fluid Fetishes
• Skills for Subs
• Common Fetishes

....and more depending on the interests of the group!

You'll develop practical kinky skills through practice in two different dungeons. You'll get a feel for what it's like to practise in a supportive small group with hands-on guidance and demonstrations by Marla and Luna.

WANT TO MEET PARTICIPANTS BEFORE WE GET THERE?

You will be able to join our membership community so that you can introduce yourself and connect with other participants.  We will also have a tapas meet and greet the day before the seminar begins and a celebratory brunch on our last day together.

WHAT'S INCLUDED IN YOUR KINKY TAPAS TUITION?

• Access to our membership community
• Teaching from vetted kinksters, Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas
• Breakfast and lunch catering with snacks during Kinky Tapas
• Kinky Workbooks - hardcopy
• Play and practice time in a beautiful local dungeon
• A Kinky Couples Kit - sponsored swag from kink retailers
• Kink photographer to capture moments for you
• Personal vetting certificate signed by Luna & Marla

Join us in Portland, Oregon from October 13-16 2022 for the ultimate way to explore kink, please your kinky partner and find your own kinky style.

Check out Highlights from Kinky Tapas, Oakland May 2022.   SCHEDULE TBA - sign up for our mailing list for updates!   Learn more before you join us by listening to us on the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast and reading our Kinky Tapas Highlights.   YOUR KINKY TAPAS HOSTS ABOUT MARLA

Marla Renee Stewart, MA (she/her) is a sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 20 years and has given over 500 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a variety of media outlets, including Netflix’s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and Love & HipHop Atlanta. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, which debuted in April 2020.

ABOUT LUNA

Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 10 years of experience in sexual health and wellness internationally and locally. She teaches over 30 on-demand Sexy Skills webinars. Luna is the creator of Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® Brands. Her playful approach to sexuality draws on the creativity, confidence and communication skills we all need to fulfil our pleasure potentials.

FAQ

What does BIPOC-centered and anti-racist mean?

BIPOC is an acronym that usually refers to Black, Indigenous and People of Color. Our space centers the experience of BIPOC people and communities by recognizing the impact that race and racism has on our physical, emotional and erotic well-being. We will hold space for conversations that help all of us understand the impact that systemic and interpersonal racism has on our kinky experiences. If you’re committed to dismantling racism in kink spaces, you’ll have a chance to unpack your experiences as you build skill.

Can I bring my partner who I’m not sexual or romantic with?

Absolutely!  Bringing a partner guarantees you someone to play with and practice on, so the more, the merrier!

What if my partner and I are into different kinky things?

Maybe you are into impact play and your partner is only into bondage. Maybe you are into dominance and so is your partner! Kinky Tapas is a learning space, so we will have opportunities for reflections, observations and unpacking.

For practical purposes, if you’re bringing a partner who doesn’t like to be restrained and you’re into restraints, we will have alternative practice partner options as per the group’s needs as best we can.

Is this event only for women?

Nope!  This event is for everyone regardless of your gender identity.  We speak in gender neutral and technical terms, so that it’s accessible regardless of what you were assigned at birth.

How many people will be attending?

We have limited space in order to keep the group small.

Will there be nudity or live sex?

There may be nudity on occasion if the practice requires it for proper technical instruction.  You will never be required to participate in a session if you are uncomfortable or uninterested in the technique. Participants and instructors will not be nude or engaging in live sex.

Is this a hands-on event? Will I get to practice BDSM techniques?

Absolutely! We will be practising with each other.  You will definitely get to practice! You are welcome to participate as an observer if hands-on doesn’t feel right for you.

I’m a complete newbie - is this an appropriate event for me?

It sure is!  We welcome newbies and those with moderate kink skills who want to learn more.  We will not be teaching advanced kink techniques such as needle play, piercing, or blood chokes. If you and your partner have different experience levels, that’s ok too. We’ll also be teaching how to keep deepening and expanding your skills and creating connection at any experience level.

Do I have to attend all the sessions? What if I’m not into certain topics?

Hell no!  Do you boo!  You can feel free to attend the things you want to do.  If you are not into certain topics, you can definitely opt out of the teachings. We will have alternative assignments for you to develop your skills if you opt out of a session.

Will I get to meet the other participants before?

We will have a meet and greet the day before the workshops begin, so yes, you will be able to meet the other participants beforehand, if you choose.

Do we have to pay all at once?

No, you don’t!  We have payment plans available! Just email marla@velvetlipsllc.com and she'll hook you up!

What happens if I have to cancel?

You will be able to get a full refund up to 3 weeks before the event.  After that, you will get 50% up to one week before the event.  The week of the event, you will not receive a refund.

How do we get to the venue?

You’ll be provided with details about where to get to the event venues closer to the date. Transportation to and from are your responsibility. Within the group there might be opportunities for ride-sharing or travel buddies.

Can you book my flights?

No, you must book your own flight and accommodations.

What COVID precautions are you taking?

You will have to upload your vaccination card when purchasing your ticket.

What do I need to bring?

We will have kinky tools for you to experiment with and we’ll point you in the direction of our fav retailers. No pressure to bring any of these things, but if you’re feeling in the mood bring:

• Kinky outfits (optional)
• Comfortable clothing
• Your kink toys, gear or pervertables

How is this different or better than just booking a trip to a dungeon on my own?

We are actually teaching you kink skills!  Yes, you could probably go to a kink conference, but at conferences, you typically don’t get to practice.  Not only will you be able to practice and hone your skills, you will also get focused instruction with a small group of like-minded individuals who are eager to learn just as much as you are. We are committed to building your kink confidence, creativity and technique.